A while back I blogged about Kathy Sierra and the way she was taunted online, even threatened. I am not even going to link to the original post, because it was a knee-jerk “poor thing” response. I took her side in the original controversy, but as time passes, I find myself more and more on the opposite side of the argument (click here for the better way to look at the Kathy Sierra controversy, written by Cyndy). What has happened is that bloggers everywhere are using the Kathy Sierra controversy as a springboard for such asinine ideas as a Bloggers Code of Conduct (censorship, plain and simple, and curtailing of free speech. I won’t be signing that any time this century). Other bloggers are forgetting the basic unwritten rules of personal blogging because of the Kathy Sierra brouhaha, and thinking it’s no big deal to ignore the rules then to get bent out of shape when they catch flak for it.
What are the basic rules of personal blogging?
Don’t give out personal information online, especially about your friends, loved ones, and children. Make up a nickname for the people you know in real life and stick to it, so that trolls and other malcontents can’t find them in real life and do them harm. It’s why I call my honey “honey” and remain vague on the names of family members and close friends – keeping it to first name or nickname only.
The more you share, the easier to make into a target you are. Just because you think you are hard to find (“I only list my county name, not my town.” “I just described my son or daughter’s school, I didn’t give the name.” “How can people find out about me and where I live by my telling the name of my doctor online?” etc) doesn’t mean you are hard to find.
Ignore the trolls, and make sure your friends ignore the trolls. If you can’t keep your friends under control, and they put you in danger, there isn’t much you can do but ride it out and lose the so-called friend who was so willing (or so stupid) to put you and your children in danger.
Make sure your online photos and videos don’t have identifiers in them (your house number, street signs, school frontage, your license plate number, etc). This includes not blogging about your commute with photos and other identifying information that could lead the bad guys direct to your door.
Host your own blog on a web server, using either a free platform like WordPress or a paid one like MovableType. That’s how you can gain the ability to ban trolls and control IP addresses and spam in a way that hosted sites like Blogger can’t do. If you have a low budget and need cheap hosting, I recommend my web host. They rock, and are less than $4 bucks a month for unlimited bandwidth and server space. Click here for HostDepartment.
Don’t include personal information on your domain registration (real home address, real name, real phone number, etc.). The only thing that has to be real on the domain registration is your email.
Don’t blog about work. If you do blog about work, you may get fired. If that happens, you will just have to suck it up. There is no labor law recourse for “blogging about the job” or using company time “blogging on the job”.
Make Flickr photos of your children part of your private photo collection that only your Flickr friends and family can see.
If you use social networking for business and for personal friend finding, and you have kids or engage in non-businesslike behavior, you may want to open a separate account for your business Id that isn’t linked to your personal one. Especially if you lead a double life as a binge-drinking, coke snorting, pot toking, nekkid cam whore or something. You know, in case it looks bad for business.
Don’t engage in flame wars in the comments on other blogs. This is part of ignoring the trolls mentioned above, but I felt the need to spell it out for the Sofa Kings out there. Newsflash for the internet noobs: changing your name in the comments, signing up under different names on sites like Digg to leave comments, etc? Doesn’t work. The internet tracks you by IP address, dumbass. If you use the same computer, house, router, etc? They know that all of these “mystery” commenters are you. And if someone you are friends with has broken the rules of blogging on their blog, the internet baddies can then find that person by searching for you, the commenting Sofa King. Don’t put your friends in that kind of dangerous position by being that kind of hotheaded asshole.
Use GIMP, Seashore or Photoshop to blur identifying information out of pictures, like license plates, ultrasound names, house numbers, etc.
Don’t allow anonymous commenters. Ever. Require a name and valid email. It’s for your own protection. If you lose a few commenters because of this policy, too bad. Write more and get new ones.
Don’t engage in personal attacks on other bloggers. If they engage you… ignore them. What? I’ve said that already? Tough. That one is well worth repeating over and over again.

Long story short, don’t be a Sofa King about the way you handle the internet. Following a few simple rules can help keep you and your children safe online, and keep your business businesslike. You don’t need a silly “blogger code of conduct” to tell you how to act or censor your words and the words of others! You just need common sense. You can still blog like you have diarrhea of the mouth if you want to, just keep the personal stuff vague and in check, and curb your hot-headed friends and blogfriends – their tempers can get you in trouble just like too much info can get you in trouble.
Do I break some of these rules? One, mainly – I link everything. I’m a freelancer, and I’ve been freelancing long enough that my clients are already aware of my political views, religious views, etc, so they also know I am professional when it comes to work. I’ve built a rapport over many years with them. Before I freelanced full time, I worked in an office and tended bar, and this blog was hosted on Blogger and much, much tamer and less blatant about my viewpoints.
/rant off
On a side note, someone took one of my favorite 80s songs by The The, Armageddon Days, and set it to images of current events. Awesome. Hard to believe an 80s song applies so well today. Enjoy!
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